If you are divorced in Florida or somewhere else in the nation, you probably have many understandable concerns. Maybe you are wondering about your financial status. You’re worried about how your children will adjust. You might need to find a new place to live. All these issues are typical and to be expected.
One situation that might not have crossed your mind yet is whether being divorced will affect you socially. As one writer eloquently put it, “Divorce breaks apart not just a marriage, but a whole way of viewing yourself and your life.”
Married couples who used to spend time with you and your spouse might feel uncomfortable seeing you now that you are single. You won’t have as much in common anymore. The stigma once associated with divorce has largely vanished but these other difficulties can still cast a shadow.
You may discover that you have less money to spend on enjoyable activities such as dining out or going to movies and the theater. The things you formerly did as a wedded twosome just aren’t the same when you attempt to do them on your own with other couples. When you get together with pals of your own gender, the conversation may turn to criticizing your ex, which might intensify your unhappiness.
Experts have some suggestions for beating the post-divorce blues that can not only help you socially but in other ways as well.
Readjusting to life after your divorce, socially and otherwise
- Work on making daily lists of your priorities. This will make you feel more productive and in charge of your time and life. Decide where and when socializing again might fit in.
- Put away photos and other emotionally-charged reminders that stir up memories of being married. You may feel ready to proceed and explore social life on your newly solo basis.
- Try some new activities such as sports, clubs or hobbies. You may make new friends to hang out with.
Divorce is a complex and sometimes drawn-out process emotionally, financially and legally. By taking small but steady steps forward, you can successfully rebuild your life.