For many unhappy couples, divorce is the obvious answer to a loveless relationship. But for others, the knowledge that their spouse is filing for divorce comes like a bolt out of the blue.
Were they oblivious to some obvious signs of their partner’s discontent? Perhaps, but not all cases of marital discontent are that evident. To avoid being caught totally off guard yourself, learn which signs may indicate a pending divorce.
Your partner stonewalls you
This is an indication that they have already emotionally checked out of the marriage. When you try to resolve a matter, they ignore you completely, change the subject or flee. If you suggest counseling at this juncture, they likely will refuse to even try a few sessions.
Your partner treats you with contempt
Contemptuous actions can narrowly straddle the line of domestic abuse. Basically, contempt boils down to a lack of respect for someone as a spouse and life mate. They have value and deserve to be treated kindly and respectfully even if the love is no longer mutual. Depending on how the contempt manifests, you may need assistance to safely plan to exit the marriage.
Infidelity on either spouse’s part
There are couples who manage to come back from affairs, even some very public ones. But not all marriages are strong enough to go the distance after one or both partners strays and has an affair.
What should you do if you think a divorce is coming?
If you want a divorce or believe one is imminent, now is the time to act. Learn about your legal options and how to protect your and your children’s interests should your marriage indeed end.