Have you been putting off divorce because you’re not sure how you’re going to feel when you’re single? Maybe you know well that you do not want to be married to your spouse and you are not happy in the relationship, but the future feels like an unknown. How will you feel in five or ten years?
You have to make a decision now without knowing the future — but there are some good odds that you’ll actually be happier after you get a divorce than you ever were before.
10,000 cases of divorce led to some surprising conclusions
Although you clearly cannot know your own specific future, you can definitely look at what has happened for others for comfort. Researches have done this to learn more about the long-term impact of a divorce.
In one study, they talked to a massive group of 10,000 individuals. They did this over 20 years, asking them where their happiness ranked when they were married and after they split up. What they found was that — for women — they felt more satisfied with how their lives were going and happier in general after ending their marriages.
Remember, you’re already unhappy in your marriage if you’re considering divorce. Maybe your spouse doesn’t connect with you anymore, maybe they haven’t been faithful to you, or maybe it’s just a high-conflict marriage. Living like that is stressful, and it takes a toll. As the study shows, removing that can have a positive impact on your life.
Breaking down your options
Every relationship is unique, and you need to break down all of your specific legal options as you move toward divorce. It can help to partner with an experienced law firm as you do.