For better or worse, smartphones are not going away. We all use them. For married couples, these phones can sometimes be a cause for concern.
Imagine that your spouse always locks their phone when they set it down. They won’t tell you the password. When they do use the phone, they always hide the screen from you or they try to make their usage discrete. Should you be worried?
There are two sides to this. For one thing, some experts note that it’s easy to build up your own fears and worries over nothing. Maybe your spouse is just a private person and having their own phone remain private is important to them. It’s not as if they just hide it from you. They don’t let friends, co-workers or other family members see it, either. This isn’t a red flag. It’s just how they approach our technology-driven world.
On the other hand, this could be a red flag that your spouse is having an affair. Maybe it’s a full-fledged affair and there are pictures on the phone to prove it. Maybe it’s just an “emotional affair,” and they haven’t acted on it, but they’ve been texting and flirting with someone else. That’s why they don’t want you to see what is on the phone.
Is divorce coming?
It’s impossible to say for sure what is happening in your relationship. It’s eventually going to come to light, though, one way or another. If it leads to divorce, be sure you know what legal options you have.